Strap-On Sex

So you and your partner have decided to take the plunge and get your very first set of strap-on equipment. Congratulations! Still, the array of harnesses and dildos available can make your initial selection pretty complicated. Jock or thong? Leather or nylon? Straight or curved dildo? Here’s a collection of pointers to help make your initial foray into strap-on sex a little less complex.

Your first major decision is going to come with your choice of harness. Your first challenge: Choosing between a jock or a thong. Thongs are two-strap harnesses—one strap circles your waist and the other strap runs between your legs. Jocks have a third strap, so while the longest strap circles your waist, you’ll have additional straps that wrap around each thigh.

A couple of things to bear in mind when it’s decision time—thongs block access to the genitals and anus, but many women like the clitoral stimulation they get from the strap rubbing against their crotch. Thongs leave the genitals and anus exposed, and they also provide a slightly firmer hold for the dildo attachment. So keep that in mind.

Now for the second major component—your dildo. Most harnesses will come with their own dildo and while a straight dildo is perfectly fine for penetrative play, a dildo that’s curved at the tip offers you opportunities to explore g-spot and p-spot play. The curved dildo makes it easier for your to stimulate these erogenous zones than by your fingers, and the harness gives you a relaxed, hands-free method in which to do it. Of course, you can always buy additional dildos with which to equip your harness, so it’s not a strict “one or the other and that’s it!” proposition.

Strap-on play allows both you and your partner to explore exciting new sensual vistas. Hands-free dildo play allows you to engage your hands in more imaginative pursuits and the harness gives you room to explore pegging, gender roles, and other tantalizing frontiers. The strap-on harness that’s just right for you is within reach.